If you ask your spouse to do something and it’s not done yet, do it yourself. It’s not worth the time and energy complaining or nagging to get the job done. Not doing the job because of the “principle of the thing” is a great way to put a crack in the bedrock of your marriage. This doesn’t mean you have to be a doormat – just don’t spend your time and energy on negative feelings, like stress or frustration that something isn’t done. If you can’t do it yourself without whining and complaining, maybe your spouse knew he or she couldn’t either and wanted to avoid negative feelings.
Want your spouse to do what you ask more often? Change yourself first – whenever your spouse asks you to do something (chore or favor), stop what you’re doing and do what he or she asks right away. Can’t stop immediately? Do it as soon as possible. People, even husbands and wives, can tell when they are being treated well, and they’ll be much more likely to return the favor than respond to whining, complaining and nagging. It takes some time to change your habits, but once your spouse knows that is how you’ll be treating him or her from now on, the way he or she treats you will improve too – and so will your marriage.
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