Recently I received some criticism about my blog that I didn’t understand. I reached out to an advertiser who had previously wanted to work with me but ran out of funds to see if he was still interested in working with me. He emailed to say that he had visited my site and while my writing was excellent and he was sure I did great work, he didn’t want to work with me. The end.
I really wasn’t sure how to handle that. He said my blog was great and that he enjoyed my writing, he had previously wanted to work with me, but now he didn’t and for no reason that he wanted to share with me. I was seriously disheartened. If he had told me no, but check back again in a few months or no because the company he represents doesn’t agree with something I wrote, that would be cool too. I could understand that.
So in my discouragement, I did what I always swear I will tell my kids not to do and just quit. I quit blogging, quit networking, the whole shebang.
But then I was over visiting my friend and neighbor and she mentioned that my husband was bragging on my blogging to her! While he’s a really supportive guy, he’s never really said much about my blogging, but apparently he not only thinks it’s a good use of my time and talents, he also thinks it’s cool enough to talk about it with other people. I was thrilled.
So I started blogging again, in a good way – not just in a “I have 10 minutes, so I’ll throw a crappy post together” way. Actually planning out posts and a writing schedule and the link. Because sometimes, a compliment from your spouse – especially an unexpected one – can really make a huge difference. And that reminds me of my point – as much as I loved hearing that compliment from my husband through my friend, I think an even better way would be to hear it directly from him. And since treating others like I would like to be treated really does work, I’m making sure to take the time to sincerely compliment my spouse.
Letting my husband know that he is loved and appreciated is almost as good as making sure he knows he’s card for (his favorite for that is making his lunch before he goes to work), so I’m definitely spending time complimenting him. It gives him that self-esteem boost that I sincerely appreciated, and he just might start doing the same back at me. It’s a win-win however you look at it, even if he doesn’t follow my lead, because I’m helping my husband feel awesome. And to me, that’s priceless.
So what do you say? Can you take time out to compliment your spouse?
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