Have you ever wanted to reach out and be a better friend, develop closer friendships or grow your circle of friends? I think you can imagine from the fact that I went to a high school for gifted and talented kids that I may be somewhat lacking in social graces. Socially awkward would be a totally accurate description, as anyone who has ever heard a voicemail message that I’ve left can attest. So I’ve done some exploring on my own recently to find ways that I can be a better friend, and I thought maybe some of my readers could some ideas too.
- Write a Note – it doesn’t matter if it’s a 5-page letter or a postcard, sending snail mail to a friend can remind her that she’s in your thoughts, she’s important to you, and that you value her friendship. And hey – it’s a great tool to show your kids that mail actually does go in the mailbox! My grandmother would also remind me to urge you to use cursive so that the art form doesn’t die out entirely 🙂
- Pick Up The Phone – when’s the last time you called a friend long distance? Pretty much everyone has a cell phone or free long distance these days, so what’s holding you back? If the time’s not right, get a time from her when she will be free (or has free minutes since just about everyone is using cell phones these days) or that works with her time zone better if you’re in a different one.
- Send a Facebook Message – even if you like or comment on her photos and status updates, it’s not anywhere near as personal as when you send her a Facebook note. Don’t know her well? Facebook can be a great way to get to know acquaintances better so you can grow your circle of friends.
- Send a Howdy Text – most of our cell phones these days will add our Facebook friends details to our contacts list. But when’s the last time you actually connected with her? Send a text! If it’s a bad time, she can get back to you later. Even better – schedule a playdate or girl’s night via text!
- Email Her – so, this is at the bottom of my list, because if it’s the only thing you could do today I would definitely recommend email as a last resort. If you send her an email and she doesn’t check her email regularly or it goes in your spam folder, there’s a huge potential for hurt feelings with email.
With these recommendations, there’s one thing o remember – sometimes with friendship you have to put yourself out there. You can’t expect her to get back to you in the same way or right away because we all have different times when we’re awake and computering, mail times, text times, etc. If you don’t hear from her, it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t care – she may just be busy, and you may need to try again to get in touch with her! Just… you know… stop short of stalking.
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