It’s incredibly tough to let go! I realized this as last night my son has cemented the idea that he no longer needs to cuddle at night. He’s ready to move on to his crib – which is set up as a sidecar to our bed. While I wanted so much to cuddle with him or even hold his hand while he slept, he proved that he no longer wanted mommy doting over his sleep. He’s ready to move on now, and before I know it, he’ll be moved on to his own room.
I think this is probably the tell-tale time in cosleeping. It’s obviously much harder for the mother (myself) to move on and let the baby decide when he’s ready for the next step. I think that if I don’t play my cards right, that I could actually hamper his individuality and confidence by continuing to cuddle and dote on him during his sleep, since he obviously no longer wants it. It’s so much of a struggle to let go, though!
I’m sure that all parents go through this struggle. It’s one of those “features” of parenting that I never knew would be so difficult until I was hit with it like a cold fish to the face. I have to be able to foster his confidence and offer him that quiet, sturdy support that makes mothers into Wonder Women ™. I know that I want to be one of those mothers who raises a child who is confident, self-assured and independent, but still says “Hi Mom” whenever he is on TV.